Fed Up Emotional Labor Women and the Way Forward PDF

Fed Up Emotional Labor Women and the Way Forward From Gemma Hartley the journalist who ignited a national conversation on emotional labor comes Fed Up a bold dive into the unpaid invisible work women have shouldered for too long—and an impassioned vision for creating a better future for us allDay in day out women anticipate and manage the needs of others In relationships we initiate the hard conversations At home we shoulder the mental load reuired to keep our households running At work we moderate our tone explaining patiently and speaking softly In the world we step gingerly to keep ourselves safe We do this largely invisible draining work whether we want to or not—and we never clock out No wonder women everywhere are overtaxed exhausted and simply fed upIn her ultra viral article “Women Aren’t Nags—We’re Just Fed Up” shared by millions of readers Gemma Hartley gave much needed voice to the frustration and anger experienced by countless women Now in Fed Up Hartley expands outward from the everyday frustrations of performing thankless emotional labor to illuminate how the expectation to do this work in all arenas—private and public—fuels gender ineuality limits our opportunities steals our time and adversely affects the uality of our livesMore than just name the problem though Hartley teases apart the cultural messaging that has led us here and asks how we can shift the load Rejecting easy solutions that don’t ultimately move the needle Hartley offers a nuanced insightful guide to striking real balance for true partnership in every aspect of our lives Reframing emotional labor not as a problem to be overcome but as a genderless virtue men and women can all learn to channel in our uest to make a better egalitarian world Fed Up is surprising intelligent and empathetic essential reading for every woman who has had enough with feeling fed up 


About the Author: Gemma Hartley

Gemma Hartley is a journalist and writer whose work has appeared in Glamour Women’s Health Cosmopolitan Redbook Good Housekeeping Harper’s Bazaar Huffington Post and the Washington Post among other outlets She lives in Reno Nevada with her husband and three children



10 thoughts on “Fed Up Emotional Labor Women and the Way Forward

  1. says:

    2½ starsWhen I first saw the main title of this book those two words Fed Up before I even knew what the book was about I thought of my mum I pictured her juggling the wants and needs of three kids after a day of work arms full of laundry that she would load into the machine in between making us dinner I remembered distinctly the way she sometimes wo


  2. says:

    My husband does a lot He helps me out with the housework he takes care of our children if I will be out he will do anything I ask him to Personally I think I'm pretty lucky In response to praise such as this author Gemma Hartley asks “Does he do a lot compared to other men or does he do a lot compared to you?” Emotional labor is the invisible job hande


  3. says:

    Cathartic af you guys To be honest you can probably get the point and a measure of the release you might need on this topic from reading the Longreads article the author wrote which is essentially most of Chapter Three of this book but man if you wanted like I did this book is here to deliver the “and another thing” you need It also dives into underdiscusse


  4. says:

    I was expecting a researched book given what a fascinating and dense topic this is I understand why the author would've wanted to insert her personal experience at times but she did so to such an extent that the end result felt closer to a memoir Ultimately 'Fed Up' left me with uestions than answers


  5. says:

    Let me start out by saying that Hartley ain't wrongSecondly my credentials I am a stay at home dad I do much of the schedules maintaining shopping lists remembering to set up the kiddos' doctor's appointments then setting them up then taking the kids to them and so on I do the stuff Hartley is talking about It's not easy I don't do 100% of it but let's get to that in a mome


  6. says:

    Oof Stretching an essay that went viral to an entire book was a bit too ambitious for this one I felt half of the book was just repeating itself we get it dadshusbands don’t clean or take care of kids as much as women do no need to spell out every example and the anecdotes got repetitive and not very insightful I barely got through the 250 pages of this one The point she makes


  7. says:

    Man this book sucked I was so ready as this is a very important topic within feminism but she uoted Sheryl Sandberg in the opening chapter and I rolled my eyes Really? I just feel research was needed into this it was all very personal and poorly supported when there is great information about this topic out there The conversations around REAL emotional labour are actually much in dep


  8. says:

    It’s been a long time since I haven’t finished a book This one was a shame I was really interested in the topic of women’s emotional labour but thought the author had real problems expanding an article she wrote for Harper’s Bazaar into a book There’s some interesting information on a surface level but it’s very repetitive an uneasy blend of would be social commentary and analysi


  9. says:

    Necessary I’d like to see this be reuired feminist reading Gemma tackles The hard stuff here with insight and intellect Next step CHANGE


  10. says:

    I was excited to read this book because the blog post that had led to this book being written resonated so strongly with me I read it in a day and was not disappointed It's not a long book but there is so much in here that matters that I'm going to take it chapter by chapter after my overview Overall it's about women doing the vast majority of the emotional labor Invisible work mental labor for the purp


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