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An informative book to help children understand their own feelings about having a parent with PTSD Andrews provides a definition of PTSD shares common symptoms and offers suggestions for coping The book emphasizes that children are not at fault for the PTSD that they can't fix it and their parent still loves themThe book contains pages for the child draw pictures about their thoughts and feelings Their is also a note to parents in the back that offers insight and discussion for sharing the book with your child Overall I think the book is a great way to talk to children about PTSD but parents should read the book first and decide what pages they feel comfortable discussing This is a very important book and something relatable to many children It talks all about parents have PTSD and how that affects each person differently It was very informative and interactive for the children to talk about their feelings and that it is okay to feel the way they do and that it isn't their fault I can use to teach my students about PTSD and how it is scary but there are things we can do to help and make them feel better This book made me cry It's so sad that it needs to exist But it does I don't think I'm able to read it to my children though I'm glad I have a supportive partner who can read it with them I'd recommend parents with PTSD like myself have their partner or other caregiver read the book first to determine its appropriateness It could be very triggering for some It is heartbreaking that such a book even needs to be written a children’s book that encourages little ones on how to cope with parents with PTSD To be sure I know an alarmingly large number of adults with PTSD and I am one of them myself after all 1 and this book in looking at a problem in a point of view that is aimed at children makes it even haunting and lamentable To have to tell children about the sensitivities of adults or how what a child might think is funny is not actually funny at all to have to explain that adults were once children who experienced or witnessed nearly unspeakable horrors or were burdened by the sight of suffering and death is a terrible thing But in this world it is a necessary thing as well and this book manages to be gentle as well as instructive If it is a heartbreaking book about a terrible subject it is handled in such a way as to hopefully bring some kind of peace and encouragement to children who might be tempted to blame themselves for what is in no way their fault—the burdens their parents and other adults in their lives faceThe book’s contents are arranged very simply and straightforwardly The author begins by introducing the subject of Post Traumatic Stress Disorder and how it affects parents telling some of the reasons why a parent might have gotten it and how it can give parents bad nightmares that make them tired or makes them jumpy at loud noises or gives them flashbacks or that encourages them to be a bit overprotective The author comments on how it can make adults distractive or forgetful or freuently sad or upset or panicky The book gives advice to children like the following “Parents with PTSD usually do not do well with sudden louse noises or with people sneaking up behind them and jumping out and surprising them They won’t think this is funny This is not a loving thing to do and might not be safe for anyone so it is not a good idea 14” The book has drawing sections and talks about how adults sometimes self medicate their PTSD with drugs or alcohol encourages children to talk to a trusted adult if there is abuse in their household and discusses how parents and children might need the help of counselors or therapists to help them out Just as sad the book discusses how children feel when their parents have PTSD with illustrated pictures of the loneliness or sadness or worry that children may often face The author is at pains to mention that PTSD is in no way the child’s fault and that it is not the job of children to try to make their parents feel better and that parents with PTSD still love their children even if they are not always able to show it very well and that there are a lot of adults that care about children and their feelings and ways that children can communicate their needs or ask uestions of how others are feeling reminding children as to what they can do to help themselves feel better At the end of the book a psychologist gives advice to parents and other caregivers about PTSD helping children cope with the PTSD of their parents trying to use age appropriate examples and being cautious about giving details of traumatic events This book is published by the American Psychological Association and is one of several books relating to unpleasant and difficult subjects couched in child friendly ways including books about parents who can’t be there to tuck in their children and a book about parental depression A book that was written for children from someone who was not a psychologist would likely not have the same sort of favorable attitude about psychologists and might be inclined to be a bit skeptical about the therapeutic skill of many practicing psychologists It is to be expected that such a publisher would seek to bolster respect in the profession it represents though A book from a religious perspective would have encouraged a child to speak to clergy after all Apart from this the book is written about parental PTSD with the assumption that many of the parents themselves would have been the survivors of childhood trauma although many reviewers have tended to assume that the book was written for the children of veterans which is clearly one of the intended audiences for this book Aside from the book’s praise of a dubious and often greatly unhelpful profession this book has a lot to offer and is written compassionately and well with lovely watercolor illustrations that add a gentle and understated touch as well1 See for example Beth Andrews wrote her book to help the children of those dealing with PTSD It offers a definition that even a young child could understand breaking down the condition into parts so that the parent can choose what to share and what not to share Beth uses simple easy to understand language in her explanations and suggestions She offers reassurance that the child is not to blame and suggestions that can help the child reach out to their parent without putting undue stress on the child to do so There are several opportunities within the book for the child being read to interact with the information suggesting drawings and conversation startersI liked Beth Andrews book She writes to the general PTSD population military and civilian alike It is directed to fairly young children but that makes it appealing since the youngest children living with PTSD may need the most help understanding it She reassures her reader that they are not at fault their parents still love them and there is help available She briefly discusses why someone gets PTSD and suggests that the child ask but uickly reminds them that their parent may not be able to talk about it I personally loved the interactive pages where the child being read to was directed to draw a picture and help them connect their feelings through art Above all she reminds the child that their parent loves them and the PTSD they are dealing with in no way reflects their feelings about their children a very important reminder indeedI’d recommend this book for anyone who is dealing with PTSD and has a young child Not as impressed as I was with “Why are you so sad?” But overall same content that explains the condition in kid appropriate terms helps adults navigate the conversation This informational children’s picture book is written by an author who is a licensed clinical social worker and is a supervisor for a community mental health center in Colorado By being a licensed clinical social worker I’m sure the author has seen cases where people have been affected by PTSD This book explains the topic of PTSD to a child in a manner that the children will be able to understand what it is –especially if they know someone who is suffering from PTSD The book explains that a person gets PTSD from something traumatic in someone’s life and reassures the child that how the parent acts is not their fault There are no characters in the book but there are illustrations that correspond with the text The illustrations are detailed and colorful and there is even space for the child to draw or write in the book The visuals allow the child to connect with the text because not every person depicted on the pages are not the same ethnicity and race Because the child can interact with the text by drawing or writing in the book I believe it is uite engaging with involving the children in the story This is an excellent book but the format may limit its appeal for older kids who would also benefit from the informationA parent could use this book to explain PTSD or a child from a family with an adult who suffers from this might read it on his or her own initiativeThe book is very clear and tries to be as non threatening as possible in explaining what is going on inside people who have been affected by various traumatic thingsThe workbook aspect of the book may limit its usefulness in a library setting as it repeatedly asks the reader to draw things in the book When a parent has PTSD children can often feel confused scared or helpless Why Are You So Scared explains PTSD and its symptoms in nonthreatening kid friendly language and is full of uestions and exercises that kids and parents can work through togetherThe interactive layout encourages kids to express their thoughts and feelings about PTSD through writing drawing and designing This book can serve as a practical tool for kids to cope with and eventually feel better about their parent's PTSDA comprehensive note to parents offers advice for using this book to help children communicate the emotions that may accompany their parent's PTSD recoveryFrom the Note to Parents PTSD can negatively affect the children of parents or caregivers who experience it In addition to being confused and worried about their parent or caregiver children may experience fear and sadness of their own A negatively affected child may suffer poor performance at school act out at daycare or withdrawal from family and friends PTSD is not just a condition of the adult but a condition of the family and others close to the child There are several important aspects of their parent or caregiver's PTSD that children should understand Although your child's age and maturity level and your own comfort level should dictate how much emphasis you give any particular issue it's important that each of the following be acknowledged at least to plant a seed for future discussion This book and the discussions it is meant to facilitate should help your child understand what PTSD is and what it is not; recognize and cope with his or her feelings; and realize that things will get better and that help is available This book is meant to be read by or to your child with guidance from a parent teacher counselor or other adult that he or she trusts Although you can accomplish this in several ways it may be best to read it in sections This way several discussions can take place over an extended period allowing time for your child to form uestions and discover his or her own solutions to some of the concerns covered in the book Regardless of how you decide to use this book remember to watch for cues from your child He is the best measure for how much information is too much and when it's OK to keep reading and talking This book is about helping children learn to cope with and understand living with a parent that has PTSD The author provides a lot of helpful tips for both caregivers and the children The illustrations were engaging and it was written in a way that would be easy for children to understand I really like this book I feel like there are not enough resources such as this for children This book provides a way to understand a very upsetting and confusing thing for children

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